Changing change.

The clichéd line: the only thing constant is change.’ is very true. However,the type of change that takes place,is very much in our hands. I’m not saying the Gandhian phrase,’be the change you want to witness,’ I’m just saying,that change needs to have a direction and we,as humans,many a times have the remote control of change. If one has changed,we have a problem. If they don’t change,that’s a problem,too! So how can we possibly define what kind of a change we really want! The breaking point is: change should be flexible. If we change for good and a person doesn’t reciprocate, then what? We meet almost all their demands, rectify almost all our faults (I say almost because one can’t fundamentally change his nature),works hard to make good the losses he had incurred because of his follies, but,then again, fail to make them content.Then, what? Do we wait? Do we give up? Or do we keep striving hard to get our relationship back to the starting point? I really, really want to know. Granted, change is necessary, but, can anyone, tell me, for once, is it really hard to get a person past the haunting past and live today, free from the shackles of it?